Carolyn Hax: Kids' study habits test Mom's resolve

  • Article by: CAROLYN HAX
  • Updated: January 31, 2010 - 12:29 PM
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dnolingJan. 31, 10 3:08 PM

If you think you have an issue with them not studying through high school wait until they get to college on your dime. Let them know now that they will be responsible for a portion of their college tuition (1/3 is a good starting point), and if they do not get good enough grades to get into a good college or a college you can afford then to bad. This will also get them thinking about working to pay for college. Stop bugging them about doing homework and let the chips fall as they may. They are old enough to understand the consequences.

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kethenJan. 31, 1010:21 PM

Why not just take the tv and computer away? Set rules for homework time and then follow through. My parents would never have let me watch tv when I should have been studying, nor did they pay for my college. Stop babying your kids and teach them some responsibility!

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mariezzJan. 31, 1010:51 PM

How do you expect your children to act responsibly when you yourself do not? Frankly, in my house, the kids would lose internet & telephone privileges each day until serious studying had been done, and if the exam grades did not get pulled up, they'd lose at least those privileges (and possibly more) until the next exam.

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mariezzJan. 31, 1010:55 PM

freshman year and thereafter, on each year's college grades. They would also be expected to work at least 20 hours/week while in college and at least full-time during the summer. They would also cover their own car expenses, plus insurance, plus incidentals while in college (no car access in high school unless grades are As, and even that would be limited use).

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zaelamonFeb. 1, 10 4:34 PM

Simple. No TV, computer, cell phone or other distraction until BOTH kids are done with homework. Parents need to learn how to be parents and not friends.

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lvoltiFeb. 2, 10 1:14 PM

I was in the same boat; my 20 year old never took her studies seriously when she was in High School. I too, felt that I wasn't paying for her to only do mediocre work. She is paying for her own schooling. Also, because of her grades, her choices of colleges were few. Now she realizes the importance.

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shoebaccaFeb. 2, 10 1:59 PM

You're allowing them to be on FB, mom. Take it away, make them study. Doy.

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