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and...... you do not have to explain to any guest who are curious. That is none of their business.... Tell them we are in the modern age.
Personally, I'm glad when people are open about their trans-gender status.. it eliminates a lot of guesswork and awkward conversation. Which reminds me of that old SNL comedy skit that Julia Sweeney used to do, called "Androgynous Pat". Because the Pat character looked, dressed and acted so gender neutral, all the other characters tied themselves in knots trying to figure "it" out. The only real problem that "Confused on Clothes" seems to have is trying not to offend the group of small minded folks who get upset when a person steps out of society's rigid rules on gender expression. Your comments seem to put you in that group. Unless you yourself are interested in a personal relationship with the letter writer, then the gender image he projects should not be your concern. We don't live in a purely binary world where everything is black or white, male or female, gay or straight. There are many shades of in between. Humanity is learning to deal with that.. you should too.
And, you can't add or subtract from a body and become another sex. Doesn't work pure and simple. A cat is a cat and a dog is a dog. If I dress like a woman and act like a woman I am still a man. Expecting people to address me as a woman is ridiculous - I am not a woman. Oh I know - I WANT to be a woman so you should pretend I'm a woman! I also want to be a vampire but adding sharp incisors won't change that either. Be gay. Be straight. Peddle your bike in both directions - but grow up and realize that surgery does not change ones sex - no matter how much you play make believe.
I'm glad Confused on Clothes figured out that she is a woman and was brave enought to face the idiots that make bizarre statements contradicting what she thinks. The only problem I have with this whole article is the idea that a pantsuit is eer acceptable. That's just wrong in every imaginable way.
You seemed to have switched points between your posts. And haven't you missed the real point that the writer is trying to be true to what he feels is his correct gender without offending the sensibilities of those who don't understand? You apparently want to see people as male or female depending on the physical characteristics they were born with. It's not always a simple either/or outcome. Humans ALL start out as female. It's a combination of genetics, certain natural hormonal infusions of the embryo and perhaps environmental factors that cause some fetuses to differentiate into males. It's a complicated, not fully understood chain of events. That process also affects the development of brain. Something goes wrong along that chain, and the result is a human that is not entirely male, not entirely female or maybe has the outward physical structures of one, but the brain structure of the other. So how does modern society deal with those who fall somewhere in between? I certainly hope we are moving away from the historical methods of ostracizing, institutionalizing or even exterminating them. I'm leaning toward a live and let live attitude myself.
I find it sad and even freakish that someone would thing they are a male in a female body or vice versa. Sick or confused - take your choice. I think it is absurd to print this kind of trash in the paper. The advice offered should have been "have you tried professional help for your mental issues"? Live and let live - what you do behind closed doors is your business - parading in public trying to disguise your gender and misleading people is another. The person who wrote in is mentally ill and needs help not a new outfit.
You prefer to use adjectives like "sick", "sad", "mentally ill" and "freakish" rather than try to understand the person. You are so afraid of anyone that is different from your idea of normal, that you use these negative adjectives to marginalize the person. Hang on tight to your fears and prejudices because it seems reasoning has already escaped you.
is probably the correct assumption.
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