Are we 'Good-job!'-ing our kids to pieces?

  • Article by: KATE McCARTHY , Special to the Star Tribune
  • Updated: April 8, 2009 - 2:19 PM

Educators and child development experts say the self-esteem movement of the 1980s did kids a disservice and adults should resist over praising.

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lheckenlApr. 8, 09 2:52 PM

Its nearly impossible to fire incompetent workers in corporate America and Gov't jobs. Whenever they are let go, an inevitable lawsuit is filed. People today feel as though jobs are their right and that they are entitled to their positions despite their laziness. Just like the Gov't refuses to cut positions whenever times are tough because they feel that's unfair and they are entitled to those positions. We've been going down an Orwellian path for far too long.

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samo45Apr. 8, 09 4:36 PM

Even when American workers are good and hard-working, they're going to find it hard to compete in the globalized economy with Asians working for pennies. The entire US society, from families to schools to workplaces, needs a fresh injection of quality control, and US corporations should be held acountable for investing in the US and not in overseas sweatshops.

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mgs5150Apr. 8, 09 4:37 PM

Hippy liberal movement where there is no competition, there are no right or wrong answers, no win or lose, everyone is special meaning no one is, is finally showing it's actually doing a disservice to children. Big fricken surprise. Let me fill you in on the next injustice taking place in America: boys/men are not supposed to be boys or men, the "correct" behavior has been skewed so that they are rewarded for acting how girls/women behave in schools and in the work place. Boys have been found to learn differently than girls, it's a known fact, yet they get punished for behaving like a boy and they point to the little girl and say, "Why can't you behave more like little Suzi." Think about it.

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atoonceApr. 8, 09 6:01 PM

Hundreds of Americans are let go every day and there ain't no lawsuit that's going to fill their pockets. They're lucky if they get a few weeks of pay for severance. I work in a union environment and I've seen people dismissed for cause as well as significant layoffs companywide. And the government employees I know have laid off and most of them DO NOT feel they are entitled to their jobs. They are just as nervous as the rest of America that they will be "cut back"!

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RipAndersonApr. 8, 09 8:38 PM

I've read several reports of several smart hardworking new grads breaking down and crying the first time they have a job an have a performance review [where generally at least one area of improvement is cited]. Now there are HR classes being taught which teach old-time managers how to deal with the new crop which goes ballistic at any kind of criticism, even constructive.

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thetruthurtsApr. 8, 09 8:59 PM

Good one rip. I sure do agree. Its getting out of hand now. Its getting to the point where you can't be constructive to an young employee anymore because they go crying to HR. How am I supposed to be a roll model if I can't simply explain ways to improve their job skills to be better people. Nope, HR guidelines say you can't say this or you can't say that. I don't know. Maybe I am just whining....

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RipAndersonApr. 8, 09 9:37 PM

The one I often got was "Could stand a bit closer to the razor in the morning".

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ExtramanApr. 8, 09 9:42 PM

they go overboard. They didn't like the way their parents, the WWII generation, raised them. So instead of adjusting a few things they had to throw it all out, do a 180 on the child rearing. They didn't get enough attention and praise, so by God that was not going to happen to their kids. A lot of this was initially driven by women and their much greater influence over the discipline and control of the family from previous generations. And now after 25 years of it a lot of the men have totally bought in as well.

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kohathApr. 8, 09 9:47 PM

So all teachers did this for many years. And now we know it was harmful. That's really the state of the teaching profession in a nutshell. I wonder what "we're all trying" right now? I guess we'll find out from the therapists in 20 years.

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twins08Apr. 8, 0910:04 PM

"So all teachers did this for many years." Really? All teachers? Wow you don't jump to conclusions easily, do you?

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