Rosenblum: Divorced dads get big gift from fired-up moms

  • Article by: GAIL ROSENBLUM , Star Tribune
  • Updated: June 8, 2013 - 6:38 PM

It’s not all wrapped up yet, but a big gift is arriving for divorced dads who want equal time with their kids.

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roberth999Jun. 9, 1312:26 AM

Gift? Shouldn't have to fight for the right to parent your own kid. The fact is that it is a huge "cash cow" for the legal system. The longer a custody issue drags out and the more it stays in the courts, the more they make. One parent always gets screwed and so the other parent wants to maintain control so the system works for them. Dayton's reasoning for not supporting this legislation is ridiculous. He didn't have any problems with the stadium or legalizing marriage for all though.

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lw4splJun. 9, 13 7:45 AM

Wonderful article. When every Mother who has a son, understands the significant chance that Her Government will make her son a "Visitor" in the lives of his Children, the Bar Associations will no longer be able to control legislation and Judiciary Committees. Please encourage all the fair-minded, amazing Women in your life to sign the Statement on the LW4SP website. Thank you.

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eman2002Jun. 9, 13 8:00 AM

Thanks to all who are working for shared parenting! The legislature passed a compromise bill that would have presumed that each parent have at least 35% time with the children, but Governor Dayton vetoed it. Too bad, because it's the kids who lose out on having the full emotional, physical and spiritual support of both parents.

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jrtruth21Jun. 9, 1310:00 AM

Gift? Am I supposed to roll out the red carpet and thank these women for what should already be a given, that I have an equal part in my own child's life! You won't get a big thank you for me. What I want is for them to piece together the 17 year disaster that the mother of my daughter has made of our relationship! The judges and referrees in Hennepin and Carver county can go straight to hell.

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HuskyLoverJun. 9, 13 2:31 PM

Having witnessed the bad decisions courts make about "equal" parenting - even after it's been recommended by a consultant hired by the courts, I'm hoping this issue will finally be addressed. I could understand giving one parent minimal time if that parent was a deadbeat or not a good influence on the children. If both parents are responsible and loving parents to their kids it should be a given that custody should be 50/50. Just because Dayton had the money behind him when he was divorced and could pay for a reasonable decision, not everyone has that luxury. The only ones making money on this crap are the lawyers and more often than not, the dads and the kids are getting screwed! Minnesota needs to change it's court systems and laws.

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rtown1313Jun. 9, 1310:52 PM

Don't begrudge the fact that the word "gift" is used in this article. Gail is the only StarTribune writer who gives this last bastion of discrimination the light of day. Be glad for everyone who helps bring this travesty of laws and destroyer of lives issue to light. Thank you Gail, for all you have done. I welcome anyone who is willing to help fight against the feminist groups, bar associations, and state legislatures hungry for Federal matching dollars (Title IV-d.) Let every legislature who fought for equality in the Gay Marriage issue, that you expect them to do the same for father's and children. Because most of them are Democrats, who are the ones in our state that are owned by the special interest groups against that keep the archaic custody laws in place for their own benefit.

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shearickJun. 10, 13 5:22 AM

It took me a #100,000 in attorney fees, 3 Parenting Consultants ( all who sided with me) to get 50/50 parenting. The custody evaluator recommended sole legal custody for me and 50/50 parenting time and the Judge ignored. Judicial bias led by Carver County is rampant against dads and it includes taking both parents money and feeding the divorce bureaucracy. Governor Dayton and the Judges should be ashamed what they do to the families and children of divorce. A presumption for equal shared parenting is the only way to fix a bias system. While I disagree with Gail's use of the word "gift" she is one of the view writers that has the courage to speak up about the injustice of our current family court system.

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jrtruth21Jun. 10, 13 6:50 AM

While I'm glad Gail wrote this article, certainly the title is part of the same mindset that says to men/fathers 'be happy with what you get'... Have you every heard, 'So how often to you 'get' to see your daughter?' Mothers don't get asked the 'get' question, they 'get' to talk about how hard it is being a single mother...blah blah blah. I've been doing this and paying the freight for 17 years and never used the I'm a single father card. When will Gail and the rest of this backwards society 'GET' it? By

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Tarc70Jun. 10, 13 8:20 AM

I am hoping this will be one more step in equal parenting for both parents. I know my daughter loves seeing me and my ex wife always talks about fairness. I hope someday soon we can be equal.

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Marykate1Jun. 10, 13 6:49 PM

But on May 14 the legislature ruled that it's a moot point for kids to have a dad and mom.

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