relationships

Tell the childs Father ASAP! What gave you the right to keep the child away from his Father, and Grandparents? We had a similar incident happen in our family a few years ago. My son found out he has a son, who was at the time seventeen yrs old. The mother decided years ago to keep it a secret,even after her two children were put in foster care at a young age, and parental rights eventually taken away. One night out on the town, she showed my oldest son a picture of her children. My eldest son then kept the picture, and brought it for me to see. He asked doesnt the boy look exactly like the brother. The picture was then sent to the brother who saw the strong resemblance. He then had a DNA test done while the boy was in a foster home. SEVENTEEN years old, and HOW do family members create a bond after so many years? Its been several years now since verification,and the only family member to have a close relationship is his Father, even though he's been invited to all family functions, and treated as he is family. As Grandparents he doesnt try to see us, even though he receives B-day gifts, and money for the holiday's. Do EVERYONE a favor and tell the Father NOW, so the remainder of the childs life can be enriched with all the love afforded as a child, and Grandchild. Had we known about this boys life in foster care when it occured years ago, wed have taken him in, gladly. Now it feels like its too late to expand on a relationship. The young man is into drugs, has three illegitimate kids, plus, is in and out of jail. Great life he had to look forward too!

Ridiculous not to tell a father. My fiance was told a couple years ago that he has a son that is about 12 or so now. His family in Monatana was starting to see the huge resemblence and had called him about this. Years ago when she was pregnant he asked her if he was his father, she lied all these years until the resemblence couldnt be denied. He was traveling through Montana and stopped to see his family, he thought he would try to get ahold of the mom and she said, boom you have a son sorry about that. Now she plays little weird games back and forth. At times she allows contact at times she dosent. The child knows (he figured it out after they met) and its doing nothing but harming the kid.

Oh and the woman didnt feel the need to say anything until things got flirty. She obvously thinks this child will get them back together blah blah, the keep a man trick! You need to tell him, like 5 years ago but do it properly and not with the intent of a relationship, do it for your child, not yourself.

It should be illegal not to tell a man you think he is the father so tests can be done to find out for sure. Otherwise, you're denying him his parental rights, which come with responsibilites. Just because the woman is the one to carry and bear the child does not make her parental rights superior to the father's. It should be a legal requirement that father's are identified for each child, otherwise the child is being denied the opportunity and the right to knwo and be rasied by both parents and the father is being denied his rights, too. Other than in rare cases, this should be required. I don't see why the mother should have superior parental rights or have more responsibilites than the mother of any child. Once the child is born, it is a mutual responsibility with mutual rights; prior to that the woman should be able to choose what to do with her body. After birth, the child is no longer part of her body.