Carolyn Hax: Friends warn: It's too late to 'start over'

  • Article by: CAROLYN HAX
  • Updated: September 27, 2012 - 2:43 PM

She's a 36-year-old single mom.

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loop80Sep. 27, 12 4:35 PM

Don't date until you are happy and satisfied with being yourself. Be a good mother, by yourself. I'm a single dad and couldn't be happier about it. I don't need a woman to have a happy, fulfilled and satisfying life. The day I realized this, it opened up my life. And putting your children through the ordeal of meeting your new boyfriend is not good or fair to them.

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rreneeSep. 28, 1211:56 AM

I'm more floored with how she's being told by people who care about her that it's too late to start over or because she's been married twice she's destined to be alone than anything with all of this. THAT is how people who care about you give advice? Get some new friends! I agree with previous poster that you have to be happy with yourself before anyone else will be. If she can be happy alone and as a mom, she'll already be on her way to a happier life. Sorry, just can't get past the "family and friends" beginning of this letter.

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mnmaggiemnSep. 29, 12 3:20 PM

Pfffft to those that say you cant start over. You can and will. However, you are more worried about being alone than anything. You have children who will always love you like no one else can. Be happy with yourself, take time for yourself. If you are worried about your body, make me time and use it at the gym, it can be very empowering and help boost that confidence. But until you love yourself and are ok with your looks, no one else will be.

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HeyGoodBuddyOct. 1, 12 8:12 AM

Yikes, what kind of friends do you have? It's never too late to start over, not at 90, and certainly not in your 30'. I do agree with other suggestions that your kids are the priority. Also, you do need to be able to be happy on your own. Once you get there, I encourage you to date. Take it very slow and casual though. If the right guy comes along, you will know it. Good luck!

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hecklesOct. 1, 1211:31 AM

Poor girl, never to late to start over but you sound more like a self conscious teen that a woman. You need to focus on you and your kids. You dont sound ready to date. Maybe talking to a counsleor would help? And tell your friends to get lost uless they want to be supportive

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robotdudeOct. 3, 1212:50 PM

Carolyn's answer was so long and boring I almost fell asleep. You're not too old, kids are ok, being divorced twice is no big deal. When you're ready, you'll know. When that happens - go for it. I did and it's great (and my friends supported me).

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joanne1115Oct. 3, 12 4:16 PM

Read these two books: Scream Free Parenting It's called a Break up because it's Broken While reading those books, start eating better, do something everyday that makes you feel good about yourself, a little make-up, nail polish, volunteer, a break from chores for the kids one day - it doesn't have to be big, it doesn't have to be expensive (or even cost any money). Make YOU happy ALONE then your girls will be happy(ier) and you'll eventually see that you've healed and moved on and will naturally start dating again. BUT take your time, I once heard that people should wait 6 mths for every year of marriage before they start dating again. Of course there are exceptions, there always are, but the point is, if you CHOOSE to believe your family and friends (I say dump the ones you can by the way) then you might as well pull out the bonbons and tissues now honey.

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