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Re: invisibility, I have noticed in the last few years as I've aged that I get less respect all the time. People don't hesitate to step in front of me or push in front of me at a store like I'm not even standing there. The other day I was walking through the skyway and opened a door into the City Center (a double door, mind you) and three different groups of young people came through rather than opening the other door themselves so that I could enter the building. I finally said to the last group "there are two doors here people I am not your doorman". They looked at me like I was the rude one and I could tell from their faces they had no clue what I was talking about. The total disrespect with which I and other aging folks are treated is disgusting and frankly disheartening. It doesn't seem that the current generation of young people were taught any manners or respect for elders, or respect in general.

Tell your daughter that since she is so unhappy with the college you can afford to send her to that she can go anywhere she wants and pay for it herself! what a spoiled brat she is. i would have loved if my parents could have paid for my college.

LW1: Yes it's sad that you daughter can't go to the college of her dreams right now, but she does need to get out of the I'm-entitled-to-go-to-the-school-of-my-choice-whether-my-family-can-afford-it-or-not-mindset. As Amy said (and I can't believe I'm actually agreeing with her), your daughter's happiness is her own responsibility. If she's determined to be miserable, that's her choice. Presumably she's an adult now and has to start accepting certain things are up to her alone. Now of course, if she desperately wants to move, she may have to get loans to pay for it - again, up to her. Or she waits a few years until she can pay for it herself.

Parents may not want their daughter "saddled" with student loan debt, yet it may be what daughter needs. She's an adult now and if she wants the other college, by all means, let her go and experience it. After all, she knows the environment she learns in best. Parents let go and let her be the adult, even if it isn't what you would do.