Parents vs. predators

  • Article by: PAUL LEVY , Star Tribune
  • Updated: November 9, 2011 - 7:52 AM

After their daughter was stalked by Internet predators, a family decided to fight back, and educate other parents.

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countryclairNov. 8, 11 9:45 PM

I am shocked that this would be such a surprise to people. With the incredibly quick popularity of Facebook and other Social Media sites the past few year.. and with most teens having cell phones and 24/7 access to not only these Social Sites, but the internet in general... the presence of stalkers is simply another danger of having such an open & free mode of somewhat anonymous communication. As a parent I've told my child countless times about various dangers and in some cases am heard whereas in others it goes in & out just as quick. I am not placing blame on the child in this article; however, I truly believe that while the stalker is wrong... the children online today TRULY need to look at their own behaviors, what they share and that they KNOW beyond a shadow of a doubt the dangers that exist when talking to someone they do not personally know. There's no regular child or everyday person that KNOWS a thousand people... therefore a friend list containing thousands of people is already a major issue. I am not standing up for the stalker at all; however, if your child is doing what almost all children are doing ... then the education needs to star there. I can tell where most young people go because they post it for the world to see and they 'check-in' at various places. STOP DOING THAT. New parents, please do not post the full name and birth of your child on a Social Media site.. I understand the convenience i.e. no more mailing of announcements; however, anything easy.. typically comes with a price. Identity Theft was not all that common in 1950.. I wonder why? Kids, young adults and grown adults.. pay close attention to what you post online and what you text.. as it very well may come to haunt or hurt you later. Believing that your information is private after you've pressed Enter is simply stupid. MSNBC's show To Catch A Predator runs so often I can almost name the pedophiles...

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mnmaggiemnNov. 9, 11 1:06 AM

Watch your kids, pay attention to what they are doing. Make rules they cant friend people they dont know (if they dont understand why, educate them on the dangers). Pay attention to any unknown friends on their pages, investigate, etc. Quit letting our 12-16 (but not limited to) year old kids live as they are adults.

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janinebearNov. 9, 11 7:26 AM

CountryClair - if you come to the movie premiere on the 12th of November, you'll hear the Prillaman's whole story, including the research they did on adolescent minds. You'll hear why parts of your comment are wrong, and parts of your comment are right. http://kidsinternetsafety.eventbrite.com/?ref=ebtnfb

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kumashirosanNov. 9, 11 4:51 PM

Now now people, no one should even be remotely surprised, this has been a problem since the AOL chat room days back in the 90's. It was a problem then, and it's still a problem now. Why? it's simple, majority of people think it won't happen to their kids so they shrug it off like everything from drugs, sex, bullies, etc etc. If you get the government involved, then there's the privacy issues. There's no win win. Best way is to not be ignorant and just make sure you educate your kids on these things, don't just assume they know better.

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countryclairNov. 9, 11 5:22 PM

Janinebear, thank you for the opportunity. In addition to the research that the Prillaman's did, there is that research that I, myself have done. I am never 100% right nor 100% wrong; however, my opinion is truly that - mine. I definitely do not want to appear that I am seeking to position myself on one side or another; however, all too often researching goes into effect AFTER something has happened. The dangers of the internet have been publicized in countless articles, programs, seminars etc. and although the issue can still arise after all of this.. we cannot ignore the fact that a large number of children today... live as if they were grown with adult brains. In truth, they are children, with adolescent brains that can be molded, tricked and coerced.. hence the reason parenting is such a critical component to their upbringing.. not just the parents, but the village. I am not pointing fingers at the parents; however, at the same time... I am not going to take responsibility for this occurrence. I may participate in a solution; however, it is a lot easier to start in our own home's first and then build out from there. Thank you for letting me know about this event... if it works in my schedule I will attend.

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