Will ex be too hurt to see her with a date?

  • Article by: CAROLYN HAX
  • Updated: July 17, 2011 - 3:17 PM
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ammunraJul. 18, 11 4:29 AM

Go to the wedding and bring your boyfriend. You are under no obligation to coddle and your ex (and especially his mother, as if it's any of her business) needs to recognize that you're moving on. However, act with decorum. Don't make out every time your ex walks in the room, or sneak off to some janitor's closet. Be frank, honest, compassionate and kind. It might even be nice to express a sincere wish that he finds someone who makes him truly happy as well.

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mkl0115krrJul. 18, 11 7:07 AM

go to the wedding and with your man...that is something the ex will just have to get over!! he is in the past for a reason!!

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momof4wiJul. 18, 11 7:46 AM

Plan on going to the wedding, and take your new love with, if he wants to accompany you. For the most part, our minds have ways of imagining the worst scenarrios happening, and instead are pleasantly surprised to be welcomed with kind words. Your former husband has had time to adjust to the new situation, as has his Mother. Dont be surprised if she is the first to say hello to you. You are there to celebrate your friends happy ocassion, not to dredge up old feelings.

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stpaulaJul. 18, 11 8:18 AM

I would imagine that the ex already knows the LW is in a serious relationship, if they still have these good friends in common. And he might have a new girlfriend, too.

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mariostJul. 19, 11 6:18 AM

On the 2nd letter, I think Carolyn missed the mark. Her initial reaction would be the way to handle this one (Avoid).

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fuhrmannJul. 19, 11 6:59 AM

Carolyn missed the mark on both. ................................................................................................................................................................................. At some point the ex will have to realize that she is moving on. As long as she and the new friend can act with class, they should go together. If the ex mother in law gets rude, just be silent with class and let her look bad. ....................................................................................................................................................................... It doesn't sound in the second letter that he is asking for a friend to talk things out. Keep any communication via email and keep the emails or it can hurt both current relationships if people think that she is being a party to an affair.

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