Shamed into silence

  • Article by: Pam Louwagie and Dan Browning , Star Tribune
  • Updated: March 23, 2012 - 5:05 PM

Editor's note: This story contains graphic descriptions that may not be suitable for children and might be disturbing for some readers.

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chouliaMar. 25, 1212:44 PM

I hope someone reads my comment and hear what I am saying. I am a 40 year old Hmong woman living, by my own choice, outside of the Hmong culture and away from my own people. My life has a happy ending, but I doubt these girls I read about will ever truly know acceptance or experience like I have now. I implore you to look to the parents for being the root cause of the problem. It's easy to say it's a "cultural thing" But do you really know how the Hmong culture treat and view women? Understand that and you'll begin to understand the situation. How traditional Hmong people view and treat women is little different from how Muslims view and treat their women. Start by asking yourself why these girls feel the need to run away? Why do these young men join gangs? It all goes back to the parents. The basic tenet of being Hmong is to not bring shame to the family. These parent's strict and controlling parenting methods forces these children to rebel and actually achieve what they set out to avert....shame. Look to your uneducated, welfare receiving, farming Hmong families. Don't be surprised if these girls and gang members come from those social-economic households. Children need love, support, encouragement and nurturing to grow and attain their full potential. In these Hmong housholds all they get is guilt, condemnation, reproach and absolute overt control of their daily lives. That's when running away seems like the answer and when you join a gang you give your parents and culture the finger. Until Hmong people become better parents. You will always have runaways and gangs.

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lily08Oct. 11, 13 9:14 PM

Hmong culture this and Hmong culture that. The media is really making the culture looking bad. Culture doesn't have anything to do with this. In fact, the Hmong culture doesn't tolerate that kind of behavior if you do the research very thoroughly. Blame on the individuals who makes the culture look bad.

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anobodyOct. 12, 13 2:17 AM

What if some girls runaway because thats the only way they feel safe? There's a reason for everything. Stay home not safe cause no one listen or cares. Runaway but end up getting hurt. Nothing will ever change will it? Some hmong girl shut down because in a way its less painful. I hope that some day soon there will be some kind of solution to make the outside a safer place.

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pvang27Oct. 12, 13 1:11 PM

this is why I stayed away from the Hmong culture and married a white guy! I'm a twinkie and I love My life outside of the Hmong community, I only have ONE hmong friend outside of my family, and I'm ok with it, because I don't have to deal with the BS that comes along with the Hmong community. I do love the fact that I am Hmong, but I choose to embrace only the good things about being hmong.

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ancestorOct. 13, 1312:55 PM

To all this funny hmong guys who intend of raping young under age girls. You guys are worst as being a thug in the street, worst part of that you guys can not even get a woman in your life. basically you guy have no future. I can imagine how your parent raised you guy up not seen you would corrupt their future but your to. to all these young immature lady or girl out their be safe and always had some one to make an second opinion before leaving your household with another guy if you are nervous or don't trust them. be smart and be brave that what are parent want us to be not like any hood rat in the street.

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brassdogOct. 16, 13 5:20 PM

I agree with lily08. People like pvang27 seem to put our culture in some sort of perverse light. People that commit these crimes are no more than thugs or wannabe thugs. What a twisted story. Folks nowadays that have children of that age aren't so fresh off the boat anymore that they'd readily force their daughter to marry someone that just raped them.

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