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The state's largest district should do more to protect them.
What if you are made fun of because you are fat, thin, smart, stupid, a Christian, a Jew, a Muslim, a boy, a girl, short, tall, white, black, Asian, hispanic, or like to watch cartoons?
Yes, I think the point here was that particular students are not protected. Though I've never heard of someone beaten to death because they liked cartoons.
Kids and others have commited suicide since the beginning of history. It is likely the parents are still grieving and looking for a reason other then mental stability, environmental, sexual orientation, etc. It is not schools job to promote someone's sexual orientation - whether gay or heterosexual. Parents are the first and strongest support system for their children. Do not push this on to the school system. Schools exist to educate - let them do that. No special protection for gay, lesbian, bi-sexual or transgender people beyond the existing protections for the general population is required.
When student tells a school counselor that they are struggling to show up to school because they are being shunned by the others in their class due to sexual orientation, the answer from the counselor should not be "I believe that marriage is between a man and woman". It happened to my child one month before the suicide attempt. It is more wide spread than you imagine, we didn't live any where near anoka. I doubt if my child would have said, "I am shunned for being too short" the counselor would have responded, "I believe that marriage should be only for tall people." While I don't expect the counselor to solve "shunning" I do expect them to not add to it, and I do expect the counselor to help them cope with it.
Parents job is to love, counsel, nurture and raise their children. Schools job is to educate. If you as a parent expect schools to be parents best you adjust your expectations for parenting and schools. The best that schools can do is to educate children.
..children lots of things. Math, english, reading, writing....Including not to hate, not to bully, how to respect others. Even if they don't want to teach it. They should make sure they don't create an environment that reverses the teaching of good parents.
Linked...Allegations......While this is a well-intentioned editorial---there is zero proof as to what is being alleged. Suicide is an enormously complex, multifactorial act that is NOT well-explained by current sciences. Indeed, compared to the 1960's, the youth suicide rate has doubled despite the massive increase in use of medicine, cognitive therapy, and support groups.....
Conversely, suicide in older adults has gone way down. Homosexuality remains a great burden on the individual in a society where over 95% have heterosexual or bisexual tendencies tendencies. Blaming the schools, or school policies, is a copout, especially with the study last week showing 1 of 5 urban gay males are HIV+ and almost half of those dont even know it. That is truly unbelievable
in the 21st century, and speaks volumes about the sadly self-destructive behavior of gays, especially gay males. In the Anoka case, privacy laws likely shield medical records from the Board, so has one Adolescent Psychiatrist done a detailed analysis of all the victims? Medical facts seem missing from this discussion, which likely means the answers are missing as well.
I agree that a parent's job is to love and nuture, and a school's job is to educate. Meanwhile, there are buildings full of developing little human beings that do much more than travel in straight lines to their next class, sit down and learn.
You must also agree that a school's job is to send home our children not more damaged than I sent them.
How can a student learn if they are being harassed? If everyday you went to work and a co-worker made disparaging comments to you and about you - day in and day out - how productive do you think you'd be? If you go to the HR department and they tell you to 'deal with it' or give some sort of 'boys will be boys' comment to you, what then? Schools are for learning, yes. However, if a student is unable to learn at school because the school environment makes it impossible for that student to learn safely, there is a problem with THE SCHOOL. All kids should be able to go to school and learn without being harassed to the point of suicidal thoughts, weather gay or straight or whatever. It is the job of THE SCHOOL to make sure every student gets the opportunity to learn while they're there, Period.
You are absolutely correct in your assertion that suicide is a complex, multifaceted action. To say there is one contributing factor is naive and simplistic to the point of foolishness. However, there are certain stressors that are more grave than others. For example, since there are many well-adjusted gay adults, it stands to reason that being gay, in and of itself, is not a compelling reason for suicide. However, of those people who are teased mercilessly through their school years, I have yet to meet any who have grown up completely unaffected by it. Thus we can assume safely that harrassment is of grave concern to a person's psychological and emotional well-being. The issue here isn't about gay students any more than any other dirivitive, rather it's that teachers or other faculty are not making a stronger effort to help. Bear in mind that a school is the primary social center for students.
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