New 1st lesson of college: Telling parents goodbye

  • Article by: JENNA ROSS , Star Tribune
  • Updated: September 4, 2010 - 9:47 PM

Nationwide, campuses are helping this generation of highly connected families manage the transition by teaching the adults how to let their children go.

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h_doddsSep. 4, 10 8:09 PM

While it's great that parents and kids nowadays have a closer relationship and feel comfortable with this level of communication, I'm a little concerned about the impact on the kids. As a high school teacher, I've seen kids who are utterly dependant on their parents to advocate for them, and it seems like this article is implying that the trend may continue on to college. Part of growing up should be making your own way, negotiating relationships, and problem solving your own dilemmas. If mom or dad are always willing to fix everything for thier kid, that kid will never develop those skills.

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Kathy_BrandtSep. 4, 10 9:31 PM

on Aug. 22. U of M Morris had a great day for moving new students in and for helping parents untie the apron strings. As we left campus, it was with a feeling of accomplishment that we had raised our son to be independent and college bound. No hovering here!

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irishmom58Sep. 4, 10 9:38 PM

I recall moving our daughter in at CSB, cried like a baby. Now final year for son at SJU, and it was a start of the year 'lasts' - last move in day, then last winter break, last spring brea

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acidradioSep. 5, 1012:40 AM

I know the title sounds bad. I wish the world were truly more caring. But it isn't. It seems like parents in this generation have this overwhelming urge to pamper their kids and never let them do anything uncomfortable or outside of their wishes. I hate to say but real life is full of lots of uncomfortable things, requires hard work and has lots of goofy situations. In college you will deal with lots of people who will try to throw you under the bus. It's called survival. Our caveman ancestors had to fight wild animals. Today the fight is different. It is still a fight nonetheless.

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sellisSep. 5, 10 3:55 AM

I can hardly believe this. "Classes" on how to "transition" your kids to college? I can understand being a bit clingy when they head out for their first day at Big School in first grade. But at 18 yo on their way to college? Break it down! What a soft, over-protective, smothering, overly dependent lot we have become. If you're sending your kid off to Afghanistan, shed some tears. Off to a dorm at college? You and your kid should be celebrating.

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millarscorSep. 5, 10 7:04 AM

do nothing but make their own child less independent. Cut the apron strings earlier parents, and both you and your child will be better off. All we see from the stories in this article are parents that did not do a good enough job raising their children to be independent by the time they are graduating high school and/or can't let go. This is just another symptom of the nanny state that parents are enabling in their children.

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onesahnSep. 5, 10 8:24 AM

will Mommy/Daddy call the professor to see if their child can have a do-over? I suspect happens more often than we think.

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notheocrat12Sep. 5, 10 8:55 AM

once in college the newbies should get a participation medal for just showing up. De emphasis on healthy competition will make many unprepared for the real world, and especially college where the trust funders didnt have to work, pay tuition, etc. Im not bitter, it made it more worth it doing it all by myself. I feel sorry for the profs/administration, as when their kids dont perform well, they blame the schools, or at least that tack worked in K12, where many parents turn to external forces that have made their child not succeed. College is what you make of it, and your helicopter will get parked next to all the others, Mom and Dad.

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liberaljesusSep. 5, 10 9:46 AM

Once I moved to campus, Dinkytown actually, I told myself that it was up to me. The hard knocks are what it's all about. What kind of person always feels the need to turn to 'mommy and daddy' when things get tough? Too funny.

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a06450Sep. 5, 1010:29 AM

A big part of your education when going away to college is learning to do for yourself. All kids should go as far away as possible for school to where it is difficult for convenient visits.

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